Are You Running Up the Ladder of Inference?

We all have our own internal biases and conditioning, which impact how we view the world, and the beliefs we hold to be true. While meeting with a colleague, I was recently reminded of one of my favorite constructs – The Ladder of Inference, created by Chris Argyris. The bottom rung of the ladder is [...]

By | 2017-05-23T13:14:25+00:00 May 23rd, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Are You Running Up the Ladder of Inference?

When Your Partner is too much to Handle

Twenty years ago, when I was getting a divorce, a good friend of mine asked me if I was going to become one of those bitter angry women who hates men. I had to laugh. I told him no, I love men, but my marriage was just unworkable. I had also realized that going forward, [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 May 1st, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on When Your Partner is too much to Handle

Take Control Of Your Schedule

Have you found yourself telling others how busy you are all the time? Daily commitments can definitely add up and begin to feel overwhelming. But when saying you’re busy becomes your mantra, you can actually start to believe you have no control over your time. Instead of making smart decisions and being proactive about spending [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 March 30th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Take Control Of Your Schedule

Harnessing Your Hidden Superpower

You have a superpower that you’re probably not aware of: your presence. Thinking back on your encounters with particularly angry or peaceful people, you might have noticed how their emotions seemed to rub off on you. Turns out, that’s a real thing. Research has shown that people unconsciously and automatically mimic the emotional expressions of [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 March 15th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Harnessing Your Hidden Superpower

Why you should get a better hobby

Chances are, you’d rather be doing something else right now.  Whether it’s traveling, having drinks with friends, or doing crafts, we all have pastimes or hobbies that help us unwind.  These interests can be healthy for reducing stress and adding to the quality of life. Unfortunately, it’s possible to have too much of a good [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 March 2nd, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Why you should get a better hobby

Danger! Is your body going into stress mode?

Certain things have built-in warning signs when they need attention: a car has a check engine light; a tea kettle has a whistle. Wouldn’t it be great if people had the same type of warning signals when they went into stress mode? That would let everyone know when someone’s stress response had been triggered, and [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 February 15th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Danger! Is your body going into stress mode?

Valentine’s Day: Why You Should Go Do Something

Valentine’s Day is my favorite holiday of the year. It’s a day for lovers, and I truly love everyone. Obviously, there is some commercialism tied to Valentine’s Day, as with all of our holidays, but gifts don’t have to be flowers, or diamonds, anything expensive or expected. Gifts can be a simple expression of how [...]

By | 2017-02-01T18:44:45+00:00 February 1st, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Valentine’s Day: Why You Should Go Do Something

How To Not Have An Emotional Reaction

“If you can learn a simple trick, Scout, you’ll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks.  You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view, until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” – Atticus Finch, To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 January 26th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on How To Not Have An Emotional Reaction

Your phone is hijacking your concentration

Most of us have been proud multitaskers at one point in our lives. The ability to do a few things at the same time can seem like a necessary skill, both at work and at home. We talk on the phone while driving, send texts when we’re talking with someone in person, and reply to [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 January 19th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Your phone is hijacking your concentration

It Is All Made Up

In one of my favorite books, The Art of Possibility, written by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander, there is a chapter titled It’s All Invented. The authors say, “It’s all invented anyway so we might as well invent a story or a framework of meaning that enhances our quality of life and the life [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 January 11th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on It Is All Made Up