Annoyed by life’s inconveniences? Here’s how to gain perspective.

Inconvenience. Everyone resists it, whether a large or small matter. Your computer is down, the phone is broken, you miss the bus, or someone sends you an important file you can’t open. You know how it feels; the frustration that arises. You sense that things are not going your way and it puts you in [...]

By | 2017-09-20T12:26:02+00:00 September 20th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Annoyed by life’s inconveniences? Here’s how to gain perspective.

Slow Down to Go Fast

While doing complex process reengineering and IT projects at Waste Management, I learned a valuable lesson: slow down to go fast. This can be a hard lesson for people to learn, since the time we spend understanding a problem, planning an approach, and finding the resources we need can seem inordinate when we’re under pressure [...]

By | 2017-08-22T19:50:24+00:00 August 22nd, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Slow Down to Go Fast

Do You Want to be Right or Happy?

I was in a yoga training a while ago, and we were discussing the issues that get in our way and hold us back in our lives.  One issue that came up is the need to be right. The teacher shared this helpful quote: “Do you want to be right or do you want to [...]

By | 2017-08-02T14:59:08+00:00 August 8th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Do You Want to be Right or Happy?

An Easy Way to be Kinder

 “We do not think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking.” - Richard Rohr This quote has been a reoccurring theme for me in the last couple of weeks, both personally and professionally.  Even as a kid, I knew that there were times when I chose the way [...]

By | 2017-07-28T19:12:20+00:00 July 25th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on An Easy Way to be Kinder

Asking What Instead of Why

Recently, a friend was telling me about a situation that was troubling him. In detail, he described his version and perspective of another person’s motives and what she had done to him. I realized how many times in my life I had done the exact same thing.  Spent time, energy and a good deal of [...]

By | 2017-07-11T21:46:01+00:00 July 11th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Asking What Instead of Why

Are You Running Up the Ladder of Inference?

We all have our own internal biases and conditioning, which impact how we view the world, and the beliefs we hold to be true. While meeting with a colleague, I was recently reminded of one of my favorite constructs – The Ladder of Inference, created by Chris Argyris. The bottom rung of the ladder is [...]

By | 2017-05-23T13:14:25+00:00 May 23rd, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Are You Running Up the Ladder of Inference?

When Your Partner is too much to Handle

Twenty years ago, when I was getting a divorce, a good friend of mine asked me if I was going to become one of those bitter angry women who hates men. I had to laugh. I told him no, I love men, but my marriage was just unworkable. I had also realized that going forward, [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 May 1st, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on When Your Partner is too much to Handle

Take Control Of Your Schedule

Have you found yourself telling others how busy you are all the time? Daily commitments can definitely add up and begin to feel overwhelming. But when saying you’re busy becomes your mantra, you can actually start to believe you have no control over your time. Instead of making smart decisions and being proactive about spending [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 March 30th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Take Control Of Your Schedule

Harnessing Your Hidden Superpower

You have a superpower that you’re probably not aware of: your presence. Thinking back on your encounters with particularly angry or peaceful people, you might have noticed how their emotions seemed to rub off on you. Turns out, that’s a real thing. Research has shown that people unconsciously and automatically mimic the emotional expressions of [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 March 15th, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Harnessing Your Hidden Superpower

Why you should get a better hobby

Chances are, you’d rather be doing something else right now.  Whether it’s traveling, having drinks with friends, or doing crafts, we all have pastimes or hobbies that help us unwind.  These interests can be healthy for reducing stress and adding to the quality of life. Unfortunately, it’s possible to have too much of a good [...]

By | 2017-05-19T04:10:23+00:00 March 2nd, 2017|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Why you should get a better hobby